It is all about slowing down, taking time for yourself and establishing new habits that will last a lifetime.
Theme – Living Imperfectly
Imperfection as a fully-formed, legitimate, state of being can be used as a pathway to clearing associated with needing to be in control.
In what ways do you feel that you need to be in control?
My upbringing centred around the idea that unless things were perfect then they were classed as a failure. It was no good just simply being in the top sector unless I was in first place. This went for everything … according to my mother anyway and it took me a long time (well into my adult life) to realise that the honour came in doing my upmost best and if, having done that I was not number one then that was not failure.
That said I still like things to be perfect, but now realised that is by my standards which do not necessarily apply to others and whilst I accept that I still personally strive to everything to the highest standard possible.
What does "screwing up" feel like, and where do you feel it exactly?
If it is not right, then if possible I will do it again. Pull the almost complete piece of knitting back because there is a flaw in it, even though I also know that no one will notice. I will screw-up drawings that I have done that do not meet my standard of acceptability. I will discard writing or edit and re-edit until it is passable as okay.
I do, however not put that kind of pressure on others as that would be unfair. However, there is one thing that really frustrates me and that is when plans must be changed because of someone else’s incompetence. For example, when I turn-up at a pre-arranged date to find that the other person is not there, and that they have left no explanations for their absence or even bothered to inform me that they have to cancel. Letting someone down or putting them out is something I would never do unless it was beyond my control, therefore I feel that the same common courtesy should be extended to me. It is becoming too often that people class their time as more important, which I find not only unfair but arrogant. Also, the disrespect for a job-done-well … I find the it’ll-do approach frustrating.
Do you notice any shifting of energy by simply giving your discomfort some witnessing space?
Familiarity breeds contempt … just because something is considered acceptable by the majority does not mean, to me at least that complacency is the acceptable answer to ineptitude or incompetence simply because the other person cannot be bothered to strive to get things right.
There seems to be very little pride in good service, good workmanship or even to some extent good manners in society today, which I think is a shame.
There are no guarantees in this life (or any of the others). Sometimes no matter the stringent planning, the risk assessments, the what-if scenarios that have been examined in detail things will still often not go as planned. That said and understood it does still not give licence for half-hearted efforts to be the acceptable norm. It would be nice if more people were taught this from a young age instead of being brought-up to believe they are more important than others.
If everyone believes they are the more important ones … who are the ‘other’ they are more important than?