The way we choose to love can be as unique as the way we choose to make a living, maintain our health, or entertain ourselves. Some choose to seek out a mate and enter into a partnership with a special individual, while others find immense satisfaction in staying single.
There is no right or wrong way to be in your life when it comes to deciding whether or not to be in a relationship, even though society tends to put an emphasis on romantic partnerships.
Choosing to be single is a wonderful way to spend time discovering yourself. You have more time and space to figure out what and how you want your life to be without having to keep someone else's choices in mind. Being single gives you the freedom to do what you want at a moment's notice and the pride that comes with facing life on your own terms. Companionship, support, and affection can be found while spending quality time with friends, colleagues, and relatives. There is also the fun that comes with being able to date many different people without having to make a commitment.
Choosing to have a mate, on the other hand, brings with it an opportunity to share your life with another person. There is comfort in the knowledge that you are facing the world with someone as a united front. When life is challenging, you are in a position to strengthen, as well as give each other comfort. There is also the inevitable transformation of self that comes from allowing another person to so intimately be a part of your life.
Remember that what is right for one person may not be right for another, and people can transition between wanting to be with another person and wanting to be alone many times over the course of their lives.
My Thoughts:
As an only child I am quite content to be in my own company, and actively seek out solitude to recharge my batteries when needed, but I also like being with the people that I deem to be special. I now have the perfect solution. I am married to someone that still, after all these years makes me laugh, someone that also needs time to himself to do the things he likes to do, and we are secure enough to not need to spend every waking hour in each other’s company.
We have different tastes in most music, but enough to link us. We like different styles of books films and television programmes, he is a history buff and sci-fi geek, while I love to get lost in fantasy. We both like good food, although his pallet craves things a lot hotter than mine. He has a passion for being out on the sea, while I am more than content to watch out over the oceans, keeping my feet firmly on solid ground.
One thing that binds us totally though, is there is no difference in our opinions as to where animals, nature and wildlife are concerned and we both strive to do our bit against cruelty and the destruction man is inflicting on our planet.
We are best mates and really enjoy being together, either out in the real world or tucked-up within our own four walls, ignoring society.