Slowing down, taking time for yourself and establishing new habits that will last a lifetime.
Theme – Flourishing (This is a two-week theme)
So, what I have I learnt about flourishing so far … quite a lot really. It has had me thinking about all sorts of things that haven’t crossed my mind in years and opened my eyes up to a few new concepts, ones that seemed to have evolved naturally while I wasn’t paying attention.
Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better. (Dr. Emile Coue)
I suppose this statement is quite apt for me today as the 10th of December was the birthday of my partner that was murdered. Although on the whole it is not a day that causes sorry or pain any more it remains significant in my life. His birthday had always been linked to Christmas in that he got a slightly better present to open from Santa but when we got together, I made sure it stayed separate and was celebrated like all other birthdays throughout the year. That meant that no Christmas decorations were allowed in the house until the first weekend after this day and that is a tradition, I still hold even though it is twenty years after his death.
There is one thing I can say for my life and that’s that it has never really been dull. So much has happened in my life that it is hard to recall. The good things and the bad have been seen at both ends of the extreme scales, with a lot of ‘stuff’ in between. To be honest looking back on almost 60years I am surprised that there are some things that I have actually come through at all. Losing a child is bad enough but to lose many before they were even given a chance at life seems so unfair, but then when heroin claimed my eldest it seemed such a waste of a life that could have been so much more than it was. |
This quote is so me. I don’t care a hoot about who mourns my passing, in fact I have opted for no funeral service at all when I go, but ask that friends get together in my name, have the biggest party they can, drink far too much and dance on the tables to 60’s music. I see no point to the days that drag by between a death and the funeral service. It is a horrific time when all of life stops turning for those affected, yet the world turns the same as if nothing has happened with no regard to personal pain. However, I have also stipulated that if I know that my time is numbered and I’m given a likely death sentence, then we are to have the party before I go so, I can join in with my own wake. |
Personally, I think death is just the gateway to the next adventure.
Although, don’t get me wrong … it is not a step I am wishing to take any time soon.