(Madisyn Taylor)
In our everyday life we are surrounded by a variety of people. Some of the people we deal with on a daily basis are a joy to be with, and their loving presence nurtures and encourages us. Others may have the opposite effect, draining us of our energy, making us feel tired and exhausted. Our well-being can be easily influenced by those around us, and if we can keep this in mind, we will have greater insights into the quality of our social interactions and their energetic effect on us.
Once we think more deeply about the people we interact with, it becomes easier for us to work toward filling our lives with people who help us cultivate healthy and positive relationships. Even though it might not always seem like we have much control over who we are with, we do. The power to step back from toxicity lies within us. All we have to do is take a few moments to reflect on how another person makes you feel. Assessing the people that we spend the most time with allows us to see if they add something constructive to, or subtract from, our lives. Should a friend sap our strength, for example, we can simply set the intention to tell them how we feel or simply spend less time with them. We will find that the moment we are honest with ourselves about our own feelings, the more candid we can be with others about how they make us feel. While this may involve some drastic changes to our social life it can bring about a personal transformation that will truly empower us, since the decision to live our truth will infuse our lives with greater happiness.
When we surround ourselves with positive people, we clear away the negativity that exists around us and create more room to welcome nurturing energy. Doing this not only enriches our lives but also envelopes us in a supportive and healing space that fosters greater growth, understanding, and love of ourselves as well as those we care about.
My Thoughts:
The blog of August 18th (Day 230) concentrated on taking on the energy of others. I listed the different types of people that we are likely to encounter throughout our everyday lives, however those that love us come into a league of their own. There are many levels to love and the value placed on it can be subjective depending on circumstances, wants and needs.
Unconditional is a very rare commodity. Social protocol expects parents to have this for their offspring, however it is a hard demand to accomplish, especially constantly. It is inevitable that kids will not live up to their parents wishes and desires for them, as each child is raised to be free thinking and an individual and then once that is achieved their values may be greatly different. The key, as far as I see it is to be able to quantify the action against what you are prepared to accept, only then can you decide to move on or endure the antics of those around you.
I have a big issue with the new concept of all children being winners regardless of how well they perform that is prevalent in many schools and organisations. I think that this doesn’t give them anything to aim towards and provides an unrealistic expectation which is then shattered when they embark on real life. Don’t get me wrong, I am not for naming and shaming those that are less able but the idea of celebrating top achievers should be seen as a reward for hard work. If someone is not prepared to put in the effort to attain success, then they should not be handed credit on a plate, simply so as not to offend anyone.
There is also a huge difference between love and being around people that make you feel good. Maybe, those that make life difficult are the ones that will teach the lessons that we need to learn. If no one ever questions you, physically or psychologically then you will always assume that you are in the right. It’s always worth remembering that everyone will at some point do something that will raise questions, be it actions, views or a standing on politics, religion etc.
Being surrounded by people that make you feel good, especially about yourself is a great place to be, but I think we should beware of building a false image about how others feel about us.
The higher you climb or put yourself up on a pedestal, the further you will fall and the more it will hurt when life hits you with an unexpected reality check.