Pain can serve as one of life's great teachers, but it's vital to move through it and not become stuck.
(Madisyn Taylor)
Pain comes and it goes. It is just one component to the grand cycle of life. And when experienced as such, pain can serve as an important teacher. It is when we get stuck in our pain that it becomes detrimental to our well-being and development. If you notice that you feel closed-off, resentful, heavy-hearted, or that you try very hard to avoid being hurt again, there may be a part of you that is still stuck in pain. Emotions
We can get stuck in our pain for many reasons. As children, it was natural for us to cry, throw a tantrum, and let the experience move through us. By fully feeling our pain in this way, our emotions would wash us clean, leaving us open and available to new experiences. With age, though, we might have determined that expressing emotion was no longer appropriate, and so we developed a variety of coping strategies to deal with our discomfort. We may have learned to stuff our feelings down or to run away from them. Perhaps we began thinking that staying closed and unwilling to try new things would keep us safe from heartbreak, safe from rejection, and safe from failure. We may have even gotten so used to being in pain that the thought of being without it scares us. But, if we continue to hold onto it longer than necessary, we are expending a lot of energy that could instead be channelled into making our life experiences more positive.
My Thoughts:
Sometimes pain is a good thing. Not all the time and not for prolonged periods, but just sometimes it feel good to hurt.
Let me explain that.
When we lose a loved one and the natural process of grieving have run their inevitable course and life has moved on, looking back to the times when they were around can still evoke all the emotions of loss that are usually kept under control. Photographs, pieces of music or special places and even sayings, thoughts and keepsakes can all trigger feelings that compound the loss.
The trick is knowing that it is okay to allow yourself to wallow in the bitter sweet nostalgia, to hurt all over again, but with the knowledge that you are able to weather that storm a lot better as the years go by.